Continuing September Debate on Mom's Going Home for her 90th Birthday

On September 1, 2011, Suzy and I had a continuation of our e-mail exchange on the
Subject of Mom’s being able to return home for the celebration of her 90^th birthday in late October.

Suzy:  We should talk about it, for sure. But what I'm concerned about, and I'd assume Kathy is too, is that Mom won't want to leave, and what would that then require? It would be heart-breaking. Why in the world WOULD she want to leave, once she were home again, unless, possibly, she somehow felt out of place and somehow missed Aegis. But the risk is extreme, it seems to me, that we'd be setting Mother up for further confusion and heart-break.

Tina:  I share your fears.  But what if she didn’t have the paranoia she had before?  What if the reason that Mom had to leave no longer existed because the medicine that  made her so crazy before has been replaced with something else?  If she no longer felt afraid?  Then, if she got to the point where she wasn’t taking her medicine and was running out in the middle of the night, would they be able to take her back?   If she could reluctantly go back to Aegis, say the day after she’d spent time on Poshard for her 90^th—like David, going back to Napa or to Garfield?  Would she feel less trapped at Aegis if she knew she could go back to Poshard from time to time? I certainly don’t know the answers, but I think they’re worth exploring.