Wednesday, November 23, 2016

In Memory of Andrea Pannal Goodman Ptolemy on Her Birthday, November 23




Today is the birthday of my friend-for-life, Andrea Pannal Goodman Ptolemy, the perfect example of the adage "With a death, a life ends, but a relationship continues."

We trained together for the Peace Corps Tonga V on Molokai, Hawaii, where we bonded because we were both almost de-selected--she because she had once chased a Tongan with a frog and I because I lived in a dream world.  ("That's your greatest asset," Andrea said.)

We were assigned to different villages on the same island, Tongatapu, where I discovered that in addition to being a natural as a teacher and teacher-trainer, she was a mesmerizing re-teller of Twilight Zone episodes.  She shared my love for Dorothy Parker's verses.

We celebrated Christmas Eve 1970 together in Fiji, where we had our first Indian food, and then on New Year's Eve we were together  in New Zealand, where she woke me up to tell me someone we'd met earlier in the day had just passed a roasted chicken for us through the window of our room at the YMCA.   "Oh, I was hoping he would," I said, and that was another story Andrea told well.

She forgave me for writing the address of a New Year's Eve party on a paper bag and then recycling it before we could use it to get there.

She hitch-hiked with me through New Zealand, marveling at the friendly people and beautiful sights and seeing 32 movies since we didn't have electricity or current movies in Tonga--although we did see the film version of Romeo and Juliet in Nuku'alofa, where the second reel was shown before the first, leading Romeo and Juliet to die  before the star-crossed lovers had ever met.

Andrea was a Super Vol (Super Volunteer) and even extended for a year, visiting me in San Francisco, where she, my mother, and I had drinks at a place on the Embarcadero where the bartender gave us the "rests" of every drink he served to the other customers. (Not from their glasses, mind you, but from his shaker.)

Andrea taught at the United Nations among other places and made me really want to be an ESL student because she was so gifted as a teacher!

Andrea was the one who told me, when I returned from Algeria after two years, about a new talk show hostess who made you want to be a fat black woman--Oprah Winfrey, a name I'd never heard before.

Andrea shared my love for musicals and put on the album of Pippins almost the minute I walked in the door of the home she shared with Mark Goodman in 1976.

I missed both of her weddings--something I wouldn't do today--but I was there soon after the birth of her daughter Jenny (Jennifer Elaine Goodman), who turned out to be as extraordinary as her mother.

Andrea welcomed my son Jonathan and me at the Durango Airport in 1989 with champagne and tapa cloth spread out in our honor, Tongan style.  When Jonathan told her he'd thrown up three times on the rocky flights over, she responded, "Only three times?"  I have a video of that!  Andrea knew how to capture and preserve memories.

She also had warm and wonderful friends like Cathy Contreras, Betty Foley, and Debi Orr.

In 2003 Andrea organized a trip for a small group of  these friends in New York City, where we saw five musicals and  toasted to Dorothy Parker at the Algonquin Club.

Andrea invited me to join her, her husband Roger, and daughter Jenny on a cruise of Turkey in 2005, and when she told me that Jenny couldn't go on the cruise because she'd received a grant to study folkdancing in China, I said, "Okay, let's go to China with Jenny."

We couldn't do that, but we did go on an incredible cruise of Turkey on the yacht of Donna and Suat Gulec.

In 2006 we had time together at Electra Lake.

I was last with Andrea in April 2010, shortly before she died of pancreatic cancer.

At the airport, after I went through security, she led her daughter Jenny and friends Cathy and Betty in singing, "So long, farewell, auf weidersehen, goodbye" from the Sound of Music. , but as you can tell, she will be with me forever.






Thursday, November 10, 2016

Worse than a Terrorist Attack?

We're getting and sending out messages of alarm and sorrow following this upset win (of the electoral vote) by Donald Trump.  (I started to write "sorry," which is how I feel.  Remember how people sent that message after George W. Bush's "win"?)

I got this from my son:


I just wanted to connect with you after the election results. I'm at a conference in Austin, fortunately a more liberal part of Texas than the rest. I'll be flying back tomorrow. 


I feel worried about the future, but I'm glad we have each other and the other people in our lives. I love you and value our relationship, and that feels very important right now. 

Doesn't that sound like the kind of message people send out after a terrorist attack?

Is this our greatest national tragedy since the attack on the World Trade Center--perhaps even worse because this tragedy was elected?  (The other one might have been brought on by us, but it wasn't by popular vote.  Hmm.  Now that I think of it, neither was this one.) 

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Tina Martin San Francisco Vistas: In Memory of Alcides, Javier's Brother--about a Pilgrimage from Nicoya to San Jose, Costa Rica

Tina Martin San Francisco Vistas: In Memory of Alcides, Javier's Brother--about a Pilgrimage from Nicoya to San Jose, Costa Rica

From Nicoya to San Jose on a Mission, 1958
                                                                       
In memory of Alcides and with love to his brother Javier, who cared for him at a distance as well as on pilgrimages like this one.

For most of  his life Javier’s brother Alcides had epileptic seizures, but there was no doctor to help him in Nicoya, and there was no money to go to San Jose until 1958, when Alcides was twenty and  Javier was twenty-two and had saved six months of his salary from his first job.  Then he, his brother, and their mother set out for San Jose.   
           
 This involved a horse, an ox-driven cart, a raft, a train, and a taxi over about 95 miles, most on land and about five miles on water.  They had to leave in the morning because there was a change of tide, when there wasn’t enough water to take the raft on the river between Puerto Jesus and Punta Arenas.  So they first took two horses from Nicoya for about seven miles through the bush and hills and mountains to a wider space, where they took an ox-driven cart to Puerto Jesus.  Then they took a raft for four hours to travel about five miles to Punta Arenas, where they spent the night.  The next day they took the train—electric, not charcoal-fueled--from Punta Arenas to San Jose, where they took a taxi from the station to Pension Palma.  There he asked his mother and brother to stay inside so they wouldn’t get lost, and he set out to find a doctor.  He found an eye doctor close to the pension and offered to pay if the eye doctor could help him find a doctor who could help his epileptic brother.  The doctor refused the money but directed Javier to a Doctor Cuevas, and once everything was arranged, Javier took his brother and their mother to see this doctor, who gave them three medicines for his brother.  The pills worked like magic. For a year all seizures stopped.  When they started again, Javier telegrammed Dr. Cuevas to find out what to do, and the doctor told them to wait two days until the body had forgotten that it “knew” the medicines and knew how to fight against them.  Then, after the body forgot, the medicines would work their magic again.  

The next time Javier took his brother to San Jose, they went by plane—a DC-10--and it took fifteen minutes instead of a day and a half.

This story represents to me part of what I love in Javier—his spirit and his way of finding a solution.  The journey to San Jose seems almost heroic and mythic to me, but there are other things Javier has done that also impress me because they show an individual, brave approach—actually a way of bravely approaching individuals he didn’t know.  For example, finding a parking place near City College was almost impossible and certainly stressful until one day he noticed an elderly woman out in her yard and saw that she didn’t have a car parked in her driveway.  He explained that he was a teacher and would pay her $30.00 a month if she would let him park in her driveway.  She was very happy to get the money and to make it look as if someone was coming and going from her house, and it reduced the stress in Javier’s life.  Also for several years, he had a break between classes and wanted to rest without having to go home.  He spoke to a janitor who gave him the key to a tiny storage room where Javier could lie down and rest among the mops, brooms, and brushes. 

This “finding a way” goes way back to his childhood, when in order to see movies (Perils of Nyoka and other wonders) he became the drummer boy, walking around the square in Nicoya and beating on a drum while another boy followed behind with a sandwich board giving the address of the man who showed the movies in his home for the five cents that Javier the drummer and the sandwich board kid didn’t have to pay because they worked for the establishment. In 1944, when he was 8 years old, he had a lucrative year.   He worked as an altar boy and made more money than his teacher because he served at marriages, funerals, and every other rite of passage, and the teacher just taught.  Javier made $150 a month.  The teacher made $120.   But the priest who hired him moved on, and Javier lost his position as the altar boy.  Once, when he saw a man repairing bicycles, he told the man that he could do that and showed the man, who then gave him a job repairing bicycles.   He gave the money he made to his mother.  After all, he didn’t need money if he could play drums and get into movies free.   He says that while they were growing up, his brother got all the attention because of his special needs, so Javier learned to fend for himself.  When he was sent off to high school in Liberia (Costa Rica), he was only twelve, and he was scared, but he had no choice because there was no secondary school in Nicoya.  He had a partial scholarship, but that paid only for bed and board.  He and his family had to come up with $10.00 a month at a time when he wasn’t earning $150 as an altar boy.   He cried whenever he was alone.  Other people were accompanied by their parents, but he didn’t have anyone to go with him.  His father, who had never married his mother,  had another family and  wasn’t around, and his mother had to stay in their home and run the small store, the pulpuria, to make enough money to send ten dollars a month for Javier’s schooling in Liberia as well as to make ends meet at home.  So Javier just found groups and joined them without waiting to be invited.  His anatomy teacher, a doctor, saw that Javier was just scraping by financially, so he gave Javier a job collecting the fees that patients hadn’t paid.  Soon Javier was able to write home to his mother, “You don’t have to send $10.  Just send $5.”  Javier was making half of his tuition on his own.


 Over the years, Javier tried other ways to help his family in Nicoya.  His mother and sisters were washing all clothes and bedding by hand, so he bought them a washing machine.  They became hysterical because they couldn’t stand change.  “No!  No!  Take it away!” they all cried.  But Javier begged them to give it a chance, and a few days later, when he offered to take it away, they said they’d keep it after all.  They also screamed in protest when he bought them a TV, but sometimes he’d come home and feel the warmth of a TV recently turned off.  When he sent money to his mother, she bought a second house.  After the death of his second sister, the math wizard who had taught him algebra when he was a little boy, he found out that she had fifty-thousand dollars in her bank account.  She hadn’t left the house for years, but she’d done business!

Later it was clear that Javier was blessed.  When he had a wife and four children to support, he went for an interview at Los Gatos, and the director turned out to be a Mormon missionary who had served in Costa Rica.  Once he found out that Javier was from that country, he conducted the whole interview in Spanish and offered Javier a job on the spot.  He also got Javier credited for previous teaching, and with that extra sum of $5,000, Javier made a down payment (25% of the cost-$20,000!) on a house in Fremont, one of the homes where he now lives.    The second year at Los Gatos, when the Mormon director couldn’t offer Javier any classes, he contacted the director at Terra Linda and told him about Javier and what a good teacher he was.  Before Javier arrived at Terra Linda, he had already been hired.  Then, a couple of years later, there was one full-time position open for a Spanish instructor at City College and 122 applicants.  Javier got the job! 
 He says his philosophy in life is “ amable, y pone mucho esfuerzo.”  Be kind and try hard.  He seems to live by his philosophy.

Alcides, Javier's brother, passed on October 31, 2016. 


Tuesday, November 1, 2016

People along the Camino(s)

In Cebreiro I almost immediately met and talked to a woman from Brittany, where Annie is from and where the Anminroti spent a week together in 2003.

Then my walking partner Bill and I met a group of Koreans.  People come from all over the world, so our second day we met a very nice couple, Paul and Mary Beth, from Marin County, over GGB!

 The next day we met a French woman, Therese, and her friends Nadine and Claud
 Here are the people we got to know while waiting for the dryer in the laundry room in Portomarin.
Alberto traveling with his son Afredo 
I've shared this in an earlier post, but I want to keep Rosa and Annie with me!

 A Costa Rican family--three generations--Annie and I met at the Puerta del Sol.

Agnes and Annie giving directions to two lovely young women.  (Usually we're the old women asking directions!)
 Agnes drove us around Paris.
 Catherine joined us at our first vegan restaurant in Paris.
Jutta and I wished her son Jan a Happy 40th birthday.
Jutta, Annie and I met Betsy and Sal at Angelina's.

 Karl came in from New Jersey, and Isabelle and Thomas came in from Brooklyn.
Jim came in from Connecticut.
We took the NYC group picture on the roof of The New York Towers, where Barbara Occionero, Matteo's grandmother, lives.

Great people!  Great Trip!  And even a successful vegan pilgrimage!  I found good food, and I successfully used Spanish in Spain, French in Paris, and English in New York!



Why I Was Dreading Being with Friends I Love--and the Happy Ending!

Why I Was Dreading Being with Friends I Love--and the Happy Ending!

As much as I love Annie, Rosa, and Jutta, I had a feeling of dread before the trip.  They're multi-lingual, and even though I speak French and Spanish as well as English  (I mean in addition to!),  I speak French and Spanish in a way that could annoy the French and Spanish, AND before meeting them I was writing messages in English like this in  an e-letter with the subject "Coming Out of the Cupboard:  I'm Vegan."

As for what I'd like to do, seeing you two is my number one "objective" since I went back to my former (1972) homes in Madrid last September.  But I do want to try all the vegan restaurants in Madrid that I can find, and I will understand if you two don't always go along. 

Yesterday I had a vegan potluck.  I didn't provide name cards saying, "Hello.  My name is Vegan Freak," but I know that's the perception of many non-vegans, so I'm going to be as polite but as assertive as I can be.  I'll be happy to go to non-vegan restaurants, too, but I don't want you two to suffer because of my being a "veganist."

One of my vegan friends thanked us all for the potluck saying that she was so happy to be at a gathering where she didn't have to ask "Is there meat in it?" about each dish.  Now it's "Is there meat or dairy?"  and  I know this can mean  culture-shock for some people.  The vegan authors of Vegan Freak:  Being Vegan in a Non-Vegan World Jenna and Bob Torres suggest that non-vegans think of vegans as some kind of exotic tribe found deep in the Amazonian jungle who haven't yet discovered fire or the number zero.  

I now have a Vegan Passport, but it's a little bit unrealistic.  For example, it explains the concept of vegan (in lots of different languages including Hausa, Igbo, Xhosa and Zulu)  and suggests that we ask the servers to read the page!  Servers are very busy people!  Also, it has a page showing what we vegans can eat so we can just point, but I'm afraid that if I pointed to a head of lettuce, they'd bring me the whole head on a plate!


To my surprise,  the response of Rosa, who had posed the question, "What would you like to do in Madrid?" was, "I'm bringing a list of all the vegetarian restaurants,"  She did!  Instead of rolling their eyes in exasperation, these wonderful friends joined me on my continuing pilgrimage to find good vegan meals! Here Rosa, Annie, and I are at Vivaburgers the night of our arrival in Madrid.

In Paris, Annie, Jutta, and I continued to go to vegan and vegetarian restaurants.  When I told Annie how much I appreciated their openess to this, Annie said that it actually simplified decision-making because there were so many restaurants in Paris!

As for my fear that I would annoy the Spanish and French people with my Spanish and French, they were very receptive!  They recognized the language I was speaking as a version of their own and responded warmly and helpfully to comments and questions!  

I would say that this was a dream come true, but I hadn't yet gotten around to dreaming it!


In Awe of Madrid, In Awe of Fresh Air and Friendship!


I have always been in awe of Madrid, so when I saw the series of posters and banners showing awe-struck people, I assumed they were, like me, marveling at Madrid.

But at after a closer look, I realized that these were banners similar to our Spare the Air--part of the European week supporting alternatives to vehicles.

But Rosa, Annie and I all took our turns being awe-struck, as I still remain--by Fresh air, of course, by Madrid, but also by Rosa and Annie!

Annie and I missed Rosa, who had to go back to her job in Barcelona, but we were happy to have Jutta join us in Paris and stay in the charming studio overlooking the cemetery of Montparnasse.  Here is Jutta, first my penpal in 1963, reading the latest book by Alex Capus, a favorite writer Jutta and I made a pilgrimage to see in September 2014.  His latest, Life Is Good, is autobiographical, and his wife's name is Tina!


Pre-Camino Vegan Treats in Northern Spain

The first evening in Bilbao, before Bill had arrived, I went back to the Plaza de Miguel Unamuno, the square, the Casco Viejo (Old Quarters) Metro stop, and found  Cerveceria,  where the man in charge was willing to make me an eggplant sandwich, which I had with a beer, and it was delicious, but the next day another man in charge could not or would not make it.

The next morning Bill and I had breakfast at a beautiful train station, where I discovered tomaca, toasted bread spread with Spanish tomatoes, which are much better than any I've had in the past decades in San Francisco, which is ironic because tomatoes were brought from the Americas to Spain, and the word tomato, I've just found out, comes from a Nahuatl word!

A tomato is pureed and then added to the toast, which has been rubbed with garlic.  Olive oil is drizzled over this, then salt and pepper added to taste.

To their delicious tomatoed toast  I'd  just add pine nuts or sunflower seeds, and I had enough to sustain me until lunch.
I loved their Pimientos de Padron--more than the canned asparagus that was so prevalent--and their grilled-in-olive-oil vegetables were delicious.





A Vegan Pilgrimage from Restaurant to Restaurant

My walking partner Bill and I went to the office of tourism the first day we were in Bilbao, and I asked for info on vegetarian restaurants or at least a place where I could get dishes without meat or dairy.

The woman didn't look very hopeful, but she did Google restaurantes vegetarianos and gave me a print out of what she found recommending  "4 vegan sandwiches that you have to try in Bilbao at --at Muga, Kurbrick Bar, and Deluxe."
But when we investigated, this is what we found:

 Kubrik's was open--with a side that wasn't shattered and patched--but the music was really loud.  Muga was closed both times we looked.  I don't think we ever made it to Deluxe.  A nice woman recommended La Carmelia, but it looked more like a storage room when we went by.
But I really loved what we had at the Guggenheim Museum:
Isn't it wonderful that wine and sangria are vegan?  So are olives,  potato, and sweet peppers!  So it is possible for a vegan to eat in the Spanish Basque country! 


In Memory of Alcides, Javier's Brother--about a Pilgrimage from Nicoya to San Jose, Costa Rica

From Nicoya to San Jose on a Mission, 1958
                                                                       
In memory of Alcides and with love to his brother Javier, who cared for him at a distance as well as on pilgrimages like this one.

For most of  his life Javier’s brother Alcides had epileptic seizures, but there was no doctor to help him in Nicoya, and there was no money to go to San Jose until 1958, when Alcides was twenty and  Javier was twenty-two and had saved six months of his salary from his first job.  Then he, his brother, and their mother set out for San Jose.   
           
 This involved a horse, an ox-driven cart, a raft, a train, and a taxi over about 95 miles, most on land and about five miles on water.  They had to leave in the morning because there was a change of tide, when there wasn’t enough water to take the raft on the river between Puerto Jesus and Punta Arenas.  So they first took two horses from Nicoya for about seven miles through the bush and hills and mountains to a wider space, where they took an ox-driven cart to Puerto Jesus.  Then they took a raft for four hours to travel about five miles to Punta Arenas, where they spent the night.  The next day they took the train—electric, not charcoal-fueled--from Punta Arenas to San Jose, where they took a taxi from the station to Pension Palma.  There he asked his mother and brother to stay inside so they wouldn’t get lost, and he set out to find a doctor.  He found an eye doctor close to the pension and offered to pay if the eye doctor could help him find a doctor who could help his epileptic brother.  The doctor refused the money but directed Javier to a Doctor Cuevas, and once everything was arranged, Javier took his brother and their mother to see this doctor, who gave them three medicines for his brother.  The pills worked like magic. For a year all seizures stopped.  When they started again, Javier telegrammed Dr. Cuevas to find out what to do, and the doctor told them to wait two days until the body had forgotten that it “knew” the medicines and knew how to fight against them.  Then, after the body forgot, the medicines would work their magic again.  

The next time Javier took his brother to San Jose, they went by plane—a DC-10--and it took fifteen minutes instead of a day and a half.

This story represents to me part of what I love in Javier—his spirit and his way of finding a solution.  The journey to San Jose seems almost heroic and mythic to me, but there are other things Javier has done that also impress me because they show an individual, brave approach—actually a way of bravely approaching individuals he didn’t know.  For example, finding a parking place near City College was almost impossible and certainly stressful until one day he noticed an elderly woman out in her yard and saw that she didn’t have a car parked in her driveway.  He explained that he was a teacher and would pay her $30.00 a month if she would let him park in her driveway.  She was very happy to get the money and to make it look as if someone was coming and going from her house, and it reduced the stress in Javier’s life.  Also for several years, he had a break between classes and wanted to rest without having to go home.  He spoke to a janitor who gave him the key to a tiny storage room where Javier could lie down and rest among the mops, brooms, and brushes. 

This “finding a way” goes way back to his childhood, when in order to see movies (Perils of Nyoka and other wonders) he became the drummer boy, walking around the square in Nicoya and beating on a drum while another boy followed behind with a sandwich board giving the address of the man who showed the movies in his home for the five cents that Javier the drummer and the sandwich board kid didn’t have to pay because they worked for the establishment. In 1944, when he was 8 years old, he had a lucrative year.   He worked as an altar boy and made more money than his teacher because he served at marriages, funerals, and every other rite of passage, and the teacher just taught.  Javier made $150 a month.  The teacher made $120.   But the priest who hired him moved on, and Javier lost his position as the altar boy.  Once, when he saw a man repairing bicycles, he told the man that he could do that and showed the man, who then gave him a job repairing bicycles.   He gave the money he made to his mother.  After all, he didn’t need money if he could play drums and get into movies free.   He says that while they were growing up, his brother got all the attention because of his special needs, so Javier learned to fend for himself.  When he was sent off to high school in Liberia (Costa Rica), he was only twelve, and he was scared, but he had no choice because there was no secondary school in Nicoya.  He had a partial scholarship, but that paid only for bed and board.  He and his family had to come up with $10.00 a month at a time when he wasn’t earning $150 as an altar boy.   He cried whenever he was alone.  Other people were accompanied by their parents, but he didn’t have anyone to go with him.  His father, who had never married his mother,  had another family and  wasn’t around, and his mother had to stay in their home and run the small store, the pulpuria, to make enough money to send ten dollars a month for Javier’s schooling in Liberia as well as to make ends meet at home.  So Javier just found groups and joined them without waiting to be invited.  His anatomy teacher, a doctor, saw that Javier was just scraping by financially, so he gave Javier a job collecting the fees that patients hadn’t paid.  Soon Javier was able to write home to his mother, “You don’t have to send $10.  Just send $5.”  Javier was making half of his tuition on his own.


 Over the years, Javier tried other ways to help his family in Nicoya.  His mother and sisters were washing all clothes and bedding by hand, so he bought them a washing machine.  They became hysterical because they couldn’t stand change.  “No!  No!  Take it away!” they all cried.  But Javier begged them to give it a chance, and a few days later, when he offered to take it away, they said they’d keep it after all.  They also screamed in protest when he bought them a TV, but sometimes he’d come home and feel the warmth of a TV recently turned off.  When he sent money to his mother, she bought a second house.  After the death of his second sister, the math wizard who had taught him algebra when he was a little boy, he found out that she had fifty-thousand dollars in her bank account.  She hadn’t left the house for years, but she’d done business!

Later it was clear that Javier was blessed.  When he had a wife and four children to support, he went for an interview at Los Gatos, and the director turned out to be a Mormon missionary who had served in Costa Rica.  Once he found out that Javier was from that country, he conducted the whole interview in Spanish and offered Javier a job on the spot.  He also got Javier credited for previous teaching, and with that extra sum of $5,000, Javier made a down payment (25% of the cost-$20,000!) on a house in Fremont, one of the homes where he now lives.    The second year at Los Gatos, when the Mormon director couldn’t offer Javier any classes, he contacted the director at Terra Linda and told him about Javier and what a good teacher he was.  Before Javier arrived at Terra Linda, he had already been hired.  Then, a couple of years later, there was one full-time position open for a Spanish instructor at City College and 122 applicants.  Javier got the job! 
 He says his philosophy in life is “ amable, y pone mucho esfuerzo.”  Be kind and try hard.  He seems to live by his philosophy.

Alcides, Javier's brother, passed on October 31, 2016. 


I don't think this is the kind of community-provided bench the SF Chronicle was talking about today in its article https://www.sfchronic...